Team Fun Lisa and her husband have been married for 16 years and non-monogamous for 4. All of your posts online date back to a few years ago. Check out the link in Julie's post. The test looks for antibodies in the blood to herpes. There is daily suppressive medicine to help control the outbreaks, which is the painful and inconvenient part of it all. It could be every day or once a week or one day a month or never. That would be more all-encompassing, more educational, and I think more profitable, in the long run.
The yahoo group above has over members. I'm extremely extremely lucky to have survived at all and as unscathed as I am. That's why I'm confused. Unfortunately, they did not find a definitive solution to my problem. Washing towels kills the virus.
So it will cut down your prospects. Do not participate in sexual play involving direct skin contact with open sores. At least, that's been my experience. It has to be tested for separately and specifically requested.
Anyways, I have it, I didn't get it from myself, and I can't waste my energy and focus on trying to find someone to blame, when I chose to live this lifestyle and need to focus on staying healthy. A large part of the population believe its a consequence of moral delinquency when in fact it only takes once with unprotected sex with someone who has herpes blisters present which fortunately is not all the time. The morally correct choice here is blindingly obvious, regardless of whatever preexisting conventions happen to exist within the community. There's also a non-sexual strain associated with Shingles varicella zoster - this may come on later in life over 50 where exposed to a similar 'zoster' or 'herpes' virus including adult exposure to chickenpox, but usually only in those already exposed to it when young. I missed an entire week of work. In any event, posting repetitively and insisting on having the last word doesn't make you right.